At first glance, such simple things as emotions, or rather, unread emotions in childhood, leave a deep mark in the life of any person and to correct the "lessons" of childhood is not easy, it is better not to get them...

Emotional rejection of children leads to the most difficult situations.

It seems to the child that his parents do not love him, do not understand him, he feels lonely...

Loneliness gives rise to a variety of disturbing thoughts and even suicidal thoughts in his head.

Children's emotions are blocked by adults saying.

"Why do the other kids do well and I have you..."

"You lied to me about your grades! Do you know what will happen when you grow up? No one will believe you."

"Don't touch the dishes or you'll break them. I'll wash them myself."

And such blockages can be listed endlessly.

Once, when I went to the doctor's office, I witnessed a situation that made me as a psychologist very wary.

Next to my doctor's office there was an office in which a children's doctor was admitted.

There was a line of young mothers and children outside the office.

Children were running around, making noise, disturbing the reception, so the nurse warned them several times.

At this time all the mothers were busy with their cell phones, they had no time for children... I was watching the moms to see how they would react to these comments.

Mothers, in order to calm their babies, quickly turned on the "Masha and the Bear" cartoon on their phones and gave it to their children.

For a while there was silence, the children were busy watching the cartoon.

But as soon as the cartoon was over, the children started running, screaming, and fighting with each other again.

"I said, "Sit down", "Shut your mouth", "When we get home, you'll "get it".

The mother grabbed the child by the hand and through her teeth she did not say, but hissed, "Who made you so nasty and harmful?

I wanted to say so badly, "Mommy, you don't have to guess who made it. You just have to go to the mirror and look in it. That's where you'll see who."

I was amazed that none of the moms found the right words for their child, didn't switch his attention to something else, didn't tell him in a kind voice that he shouldn't do that. Of course, it's easier to give a phone, yell, scream, than to educate.

I cannot judge these young mothers for not knowing how to raise their children. I don't think anyone taught them that. As they can, they bring them up.

That's why I always say that not only children need to be taught and educated, but parents as well.

And we're continuing with the case studies and the topic of our next meeting is "Children's Feelings and Emotions.

Speaker - Gryaznova Irina Yurievna - Candidate of Pedagogical Sciences, Practical Psychologist, a leading specialist in the Center for the diagnosis and counseling of children and adolescents (Kaliningrad).