There are no lazy children! Shocked? Do you want to argue that yours is exactly that? Is the child “lazy” to study, help around the house, attend classes? Surely, therefore you signed your child into the camp of slobs. However, psychologists continue to insist on their own. All people are born with the program “I want to know and be able to!”, Which is why from an early age kids learn about the world in all available ways: first by putting everything in their mouths, and then tactilely, visually, audibly. At the age of 2-3 years, a new period of development "I myself!" (I will open the door, press the elevator button, turn on the light in the room, etc.). So where is the place for laziness?

Having matured a little, the child begins to master more complex thought processes. Performing this or that action, he already asks the question, not "why?", But "wherefore?" it does. And if there is no motivation or your child cannot find it on his own, the action is simply postponed or ignored.

This, by the way, is a very useful skill, which means that the child is mindful of the matter. It is very useful in adulthood. Therefore, instead of getting angry and scolding children, adults need to understand how to motivate a small person to improve himself (study well, develop in a certain sport, learn how to wash dishes, etc.).

It is also very important to understand the true reason for the child's indifference to this or that occupation. In addition to the lack of incentive, these can be:

- low self-esteem;

- tiredness;

- overwhelming work (many moms and dads sin with high expectations).

And yet, do you remember the saying that "laziness is the engine of progress"? They say that because lazy people are looking for easier and faster ways to accomplish their tasks and try to do it efficiently so that they do not have to redo them later. It would be great to use this for good: if the child does not want to do some voluminous work, offer him to find options for how to “get rid of” it faster, while so that the quality does not suffer.

Another important point: a child needs to be lazy from time to time, like any person. Otherwise, there is a high risk of "overheating", "burn out". Learn to do it as correctly and productively as possible, this will help not only the child, but also yourself!

Alexandrova Ekaterina - How to raise a successful child.